ORDER OF EVENTS FOR YORUBA INTRODUCTION / ENGAGEMENT WEDDING CEREMONY.
Hello intending couples, hope you find this useful and informative. I actually created this for my client in diaspora. She wanted to have an idea of how events would unfold on her day. As they say, knowledge is power.
If you know exactly how your wedding is going to be, you will know what to do at any given point in time and of course with the directions of your M.c, alagaduro and alaga ijoko you are good to go!
So here goes..
It is the introduction of the entire family of the proposed couple to one another, it is also the ceremony where the groom's family would officially ask for the bride's hand in marriage and also pay the bride price.
Alaga iduro- groom's moderator
Alaga ijoko- bride's moderator
ORDER OF EVENTS.
1. Opening prayer
2. The moderators for each of the bride and groom's family go through a question and answer session,with the alaga ijoko putting the groom's representatives through some tasks (nothing tedious, just ceremonial).the groom is absent all the while this is on till he is invited in after all requirements have been met.
3. The groom's family submits the proposal letter to be read to the hearing of the bride's family.
4. Groom and his entourage will prostrate to the brides family so that their requested will be granted.this is a sign of respect for the elders of the family the groom is seeking to marry their daughter, even if your agbada is of the purest white, you've still got to..haha this is as directed by the moderator.
5. Presentation of the bride price .
6. Outing of the bride.
7. The bride is then Introduced to the groom, she will be asked if she knows the groom and if she is willing to marry him, if she says yes,the ceremony continues and if she says NO it ends right there.
8. If yes ,the ceremony continues with the bride and groom being ushered to go sit in their beautifully decorated couples gazebo and at this stage ,they are considered MARRIED.
9. They exchange engagement rings and go and kneel before their parents for prayers and blessings.
10. Cutting of the engagement cake .
11. Feeding assignment or first assignment.
12. Vote of thanks
13. Closing prayer
Dance ! Dance!! Dance!!!
All this is done with a whole lot of fanfare from both moderators with drumming and singing the traditional Yoruba way.amendments can be made to the above to suit your style and fit in other events marked for the day.
If you know exactly how your wedding is going to be, you will know what to do at any given point in time and of course with the directions of your M.c, alagaduro and alaga ijoko you are good to go!
So here goes..
It is the introduction of the entire family of the proposed couple to one another, it is also the ceremony where the groom's family would officially ask for the bride's hand in marriage and also pay the bride price.
Alaga iduro- groom's moderator
Alaga ijoko- bride's moderator
ORDER OF EVENTS.
1. Opening prayer
2. The moderators for each of the bride and groom's family go through a question and answer session,with the alaga ijoko putting the groom's representatives through some tasks (nothing tedious, just ceremonial).the groom is absent all the while this is on till he is invited in after all requirements have been met.
3. The groom's family submits the proposal letter to be read to the hearing of the bride's family.
4. Groom and his entourage will prostrate to the brides family so that their requested will be granted.this is a sign of respect for the elders of the family the groom is seeking to marry their daughter, even if your agbada is of the purest white, you've still got to..haha this is as directed by the moderator.
5. Presentation of the bride price .
6. Outing of the bride.
7. The bride is then Introduced to the groom, she will be asked if she knows the groom and if she is willing to marry him, if she says yes,the ceremony continues and if she says NO it ends right there.
8. If yes ,the ceremony continues with the bride and groom being ushered to go sit in their beautifully decorated couples gazebo and at this stage ,they are considered MARRIED.
9. They exchange engagement rings and go and kneel before their parents for prayers and blessings.
10. Cutting of the engagement cake .
11. Feeding assignment or first assignment.
12. Vote of thanks
13. Closing prayer
Dance ! Dance!! Dance!!!
All this is done with a whole lot of fanfare from both moderators with drumming and singing the traditional Yoruba way.amendments can be made to the above to suit your style and fit in other events marked for the day.
Pls I need order of introduction only mo mi n mo o
ReplyDeleteI need order of introduction only just in a small sitting room.
DeleteI am about MC a Yoruba introduction and this just saved my life o. Thanks a bunch
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ReplyDeleteBefore our proposed introduction day, my family had a meeting with my boyfriend's family. It was at this meeting that it was decided we do both introduction and engagement on the same day.
ReplyDeleteSo are we supposed to do introduction that day first, then the engagement following after? Or we do both as one event?
Want to know also coz I'm doing both together I'm confused
DeleteIt depends on what your parents want, though both can be done at the same time. Ata stage duing the engagement, the Grooms family can be introduced one after the other. But for time constraints,lots of families does it a different day from the day of engagement.
ReplyDeleteThe above looks like mixing engagement program with introduction program. Bride price should not come during introduction ceremony I think.
ReplyDeleteGood points bro
DeleteNice info. But I think order of events for introduction and engagement should be separated so that one will not mix it up
ReplyDeletePls, how to introduced groom family accordingly.
ReplyDeletePls. Can introduction be done without the husband absent
ReplyDeleteFine
ReplyDeleteHow can someone plan for parlor engagement ceremony and both introduction and engagement are on same day but parlor engagement
Great job 👍
DeleteI think the normal and reasonable one supposed to be introduction first before the engagement.
ReplyDeleteIntroduction is knowing each other well before the engagement.
Engagement is payment of dowry.
Even the engagement ring we are giving each other on the day before wedding is wrong. Engagement ring supposed to would have been given by the boy the very day he proposed the girl if the girl accepted the proposal. The engagement starts from that day. What we are doing now is payment of dowry.
That is igbalode engagement.the normal one is giving ring on engagement day.though yoruba tradition does not originally include ring in engagement.
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God bless you all for this,and a million thanks to the one who sent this info♥️💞💓
ReplyDeleteThanks for this information. Very useful. I also agree with some of the comments from the commentators! Very valuable observations in the comments. First, the order of the introduction should be separated from the engagement even though it is combined together in a day or it is done on separate day! Second, there was a mixed up on the orders of the information provided for the traditional into and the engagement. These can confused the people looking to adopt the information!
ReplyDeleteI am here in Maryland and will travel to host your engagement as Alaga. I bring class, uniqueness and integrity into what I do. You can call me “Posh Alaga Alakowe”. Being Alaga should not be about you milking money off the guests or drawing attention to you, you are there to serve and make the occasion fun, while you carry the guests along explaining why we do what we do. Hence God should always be the center of it all at the end of the day. Folajide@aol.com
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